Email from Reader Erika:
“[Reilly] is certainly gorgeous. And on the other side of the states. Sigh…Why can’t guys who look like that live in my area? Scratch that…how come the guys who DO live in my area that look like Reilly have to KNOW how good they look and use that to bed every woman they encounter? UGH! Where have all the good guys gone?”
I think I can answer a couple of your questions.
1. Why can’t guys who look like that live in your area?
Pretty much everyone who lives in LA is physically fit. They understand the benefits, and exercise makes them happier people. It’s not something they have to force themselves to do because they enjoy it.
Men in the Northeast spend most of their time chained to a desk or wine bottle so it leaves little time for working out. Honestly, I don’t blame them. I have a really hard time staying motivated in NYC. But, this means a little more gut comes with their financial glory (or what remains of it).
2. Why do they KNOW it and use it against us?
Reilly knows he is good looking, but doesn’t flaunt himself by any means. He was not thrilled about me taking the picture, but saw the humor in it.
But you’re right, most of the men in LA aren’t worth talking to. They are so self-consumed. At least the men in NYC have something to say. I much prefer dating there.
So I think it’s about finding a happy medium. I know I need a man who is intelligent, ambitious, and active. He doesn’t need to have washboard abs, but just likes exercising or playing sports. And witty, witty is at the top of my list. My last “boyfriend” really raised the bar for witty so now I’m stuck in a sea of funny when what I really NEED is witty.
It’s a give and take game. But while you’re waiting for Mr. Right, go out with some Mr. Wrongs so you’ll fully appreciate Right when he shows up (with his rock hard body!)