—Kyle King (her weekly Wednesday post)
When I first read this, I thought to myself, “I pity people who feel like they have to be someone else to please others.”
But then I turned the quote around on myself (because that’s what I want you to do with these weekly introspective quotes). And my thought was not so nice. :: “I think the world might like it if I wasn’t so me all the time.” I’m a very independent, strong, and brutally honest person. I’ve attempted to tame down that last characteristic a lot over the past two years. Brutal honesty is only appropriate when your opinion is asked and then should only be offered to close friends and family. There’s no need to alienate acquaintances. I know, that seems obvious, but it didn’t sink in until about 25.
Apart from that, I still have no idea how to be anything else other than myself. And that usually means speaking my mind. But these days, I wish I would shut my trap and take a back seat when it comes to the little things. Only the little things. I think I would lighten up as a person, and group situations would be more enjoyable for everyone. I’ve tested this theory a few times and actually loved going with the flow.
I guess what I’m saying is that of course you should be yourself, but don’t shut the door on evolving your character. ”That’s just me” is often an excuse for something you know is a flaw, but you think people should accept you for you. I’m all for that. I am grateful for my friends who understand my personality. I take their bad with good as well. But that doesn’t mean I shouldn’t re-evaluate the “that’s just me” quality. In the end, despite my conclusion, I know I’ll come out a better me.