I’ve been thinking a lot these days about what I’m insecure about and trying to find the root of those feelings.
Insecurities seem to spawn behavior that isn’t representative of how we actually feel or the person we actually are….no wait. The person we want to be.
Digging deep into these sensitive issues is difficult, but also integral for us to evolve to be better people. ”Better” meaning we are more confident and content with ourselves, and therefore we become more compassionate friends, spouses, and co-workers. That personal strength will permeate throughout our lives in every way: comments, lifestyle, advice, activities, workouts, relationships, etc. As a result we will pass on that strength to those around us.
Well, that’s how it seems to me anyway.
So today I challenge you to identify an insecurity in hope to find the source of it. If you really take this task seriously, naming something specific will be the first step in your investigation, and in the following days, you’ll see a pattern in your behavior and interactions with others. That will lead you to question why it is you do what you do. And finally, you’ll hit a soft spot. Don’t run from it. Probe deeper. Ouch! Yep, it’s not pleasant. But hopefully you’ll be able to pick apart this inner knot and feel a sense of relief and strength when you’ve sorted out the issue.
Don’t expect an instant result, but notice how your behavior changes. Pay special attention to how you deal with obstacles. You should feel even more satisfied with your successes, and also be able to move on quicker from your failures.
Obviously I’m not an expert, but this on-going process has been working for me recently.