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Does TRUE LOVE exist?

February 26th, 2010 1 Comment

Many people in today’s society don’t believe that true love exist or is nothing more than an old wives’ tale from our forefathers. Well, I still believe that soul mates aren’t a facade at the end of the relationship tunnel.

Remember when you were growing up and your grandparents would tell you stories from their relationship that had lasted over 50 years?  I always thought wow, am I going to be able to find that woman when I haven’t been able to date someone for over a couple of years?

In today’s world we have placed other priorities in front of finding our soul mate, whether it be work, personal achievements, hobbies, or travel, LOVE has taken a back seat in many of our lives.  And that’s ok.  I’m not saying to spend each day searching, that’s ludicrous; you’d drive yourself crazy. But it’s important to keep your eyes open and notice opportunities when they are in front of you. In fact, when “Love at first site” happens a human’s eyes actually dilate (Via OMGFACTS). But, I feel like some people need to be smacked in the face before they realize they are staring at the person they want to love for life.  It’s all a matter of priorities.

I will tell you I have not yet experienced a deep love, but I am definitely open and ready for it. Seriously, “the male model” doesn’t have to be the player who breaks your heart.  I think you know me well enough by now to realize that’s not me.  Admittedly, it took the wisdom of age (very Scorpio of me) to recognize I never really saw the importance or the impact on your life love has.

One of my favorite stories of true love is that of my mother and step-father.  He was the cool, single guy,  and didn’t need anything or anyone else.  Being single until the age of 30 in the south, he probably had lost some hope (I would have started to anyway).  Only when he met my mother did he realize life could reach that next level of happiness unless she was a part of it. When he asked for my mother’s hand when I was 8 yrs old, I was part of the package deal and grinning from ear to ear. Now, 18 yrs later, they are still best friends and inseparable.

My second case hits more in my own age group or friend circle.

Last year, one of my best friends, Dr. Neil, called me and asked me to be the best man at his wedding.  And my response was, “to who?”  Apparently they had a long-distance relationship for 6 weeks.  When I heard the story, I of course was hesitant to support this hasty decision.  But he insisted, “ I’ve never felt like this and I know you think I’m crazy but I’m in love with this girl.  Buddy you know how I am with decisions and women, but this, I know in my heart this is the right decision 100%”. At the wedding we all prayed for the best, yet secretly knew  there was no question if they would make it.

Well, this past weekend (8 months later) I had the opportunity of spending an ample amount of time with them as a guest in their home. The love they share is blatantly obvious and stronger than ever, and she is 7 weeks away from giving birth to a beautiful daughter and guess who’s the God Father?…….Yep yours truly!!!

I pray  we all can experience what my family and best friend have one day in our lives. I find hope in knowing someone experienced a love so deep they could write:

“I would rather have had one breath of her hair,one kiss from her mouth, one touch of her hand, that eternity without it”—City of Angels.

Maybe I will check out Match.com…..

  • Debbie Winstead

    I am so pleased that I have been blessed with true love & my soul mate. An even more pleased that Brandon grew up in a home with true love.
    Debbie Winstead ( Brandon’s Mother)