This was the question a reader emailed me last week. She is concerned that since she’s not a girly girl, would she enjoy the experience.
Here’s what I wrote to her:
You sound exactly like me in terms of guy and girl friends. I’m definitely more comfortable around guys and hate needless drama.
I went to school far away too, which is why I wanted to be in a sorority (and I’m a WASPy Texan – we don’t know how to not go Greek). It’s a great way to meet both girl and guy friends. You don’t have to be a girly girl to enjoy or benefit from it. I was never fully involved in ALL of the activities, I picked what I wanted to do, hung out with my core group of girls, and went to the social events. Plus, I loved having a place to go grab lunch while I caught up with girls or study in a quiet cozy environment.
I never lived in the house but I chose an apartment close by so I could easily walk over whenever I wanted.
The first two years I was more active than my third year (I graduated in 3 years), which is standard for most girls. I had a little sister, helped organize events, etc.
What came as a shock to me was that my favorite part about the whole thing was RUSH week when we were OBLIGATED to be there all day for 2 weeks. I made friends with girls I had never considered.
You should not listen to anyone else’s opinion about going Greek. If these guys are your friends, then they’ll love you either way.
I say go for it! You can always drop out, but I think you’ll enjoy it. Just don’t stress and keep an open mind.
Thankfully I don’t have any sorority photos to include with this post, so I’ll offer up a recent picture of me and one of my favorite people on the planet – My Kittyball Ali. If I had to pull a tooth out every day I was a Delta Gamma just to share those years with her and have her friendship now, I would have absolutely done it :)Tweet this!