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November 6th, 2013 2 Comments

Mary Rambin and Reader Megan

 

Reader Megan from Chicago came up to me the other night and said, “You’re Mary Rambin right?  I’ve been reading your blog for years.  Thank you for sharing…..please keep blogging!”  This used to happen all the time in New York and San Francisco, but not so much anymore.

So let me send the thanks right back to you Megan and all of my readers.

My career in blogging has obviously had it’s highs and lows.  And the one reason I keep doing it: you, my readers, who email me continuously, introduce yourselves with smiles, and offer gratitude for the specific ways my efforts have helped you.  You have shared your personal problems, fashion dilemmas, colonic fears, things you would only talk about with a friend.

It means the world to me to connect with so many of you, and I’m always so glad to hear the same in return.

Big hugs to you my MTM readers.

Back to bed, sick as a DOG :(

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Make your dog talk and your friends die laughing.

October 23rd, 2013 No Comments

My friend January made this and sent it via text.  I was on the floor in tears!

She used an app called My Talking Pet to make it.  Apparently it works on people too! With a little searching I also found YAKiT, another talking photo app, which got great reviews.

Just something fun to play around with.  Enjoy!

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“Dreams unwind, love’s a state of mind.”

May 28th, 2013 1 Comment

Fleetwood Mac Hollywood Bowl 2013

Stevie Nicks, in the flesh, sang those words into my little blessed ears!

It was a dream come true to see Fleetwood Mac in concert at the Hollywood Bowl over the holiday.  Stevie, Lindsey, and Mick gave a breathtaking performance of all of my favorites as I danced and sang along (probably a little too loud). My heart broke and filled with love all the same time.  They shut it down with Silver Springs and I just melted.

My mom used to make me listen to “classics”  as she drove me to school or to my grandparents’ house 3 hours away.  At the time I couldn’t stand James Taylor, The Carpenters, Whitney Houston, Fleetwood Mac, you name it.  Now, those are the sounds that sooth my soul and remind me that the experiences in life, good and hard, make me a happier person.

 

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Soul Starvation

April 24th, 2013 2 Comments

I’m not going to get too deep with you here.  Sometimes I’m just floored by the obvious things I do consciously and choose not to acknowledge those actions.

In this case, I’ve been shutting out music.  To save myself the grief.  To not deal with what’s happened to my life.  To move on and deal with the healing later.  And it’s working pretty well.  I am generally happy.

But it’s not until you’re spinning in a puddle of tears do you realize, “Shit, I’ve got some issues I need to work out.”

Yesterday morning I took Melanie‘s class at SoulCycle on W77.  The songs she chose were provocative and her language dug deep into places I’ve been shutting out for a while. For an instructor to be able to pull that kind of catharsis means either she’s really good and/or you need some soul salvation.  In my case, it’s both.

The tears came when everything I had been hiding from started jumping out at me at one time: I shut out my grief.  I want to dig into myself but I’m scared.  I resent this struggle in New York.  I cherish my memories and hate that I can’t use them for comfort….After some consideration, I realize I’ve been able to do so by starving myself from my music – the songs that have given me so much joy over the past three years.

I know these days will pass and I’ll be home in LA again.  But I think what is really bothering me is that I don’t have a home.  The man I called home locked me out.  If that isn’t hard enough, how can I open myself up to trust another one who appears to welcome me with open arms?

In a way that sunny Lala Land didn’t, New York is obviously challenging me to be introspective and push my limits at the same time.  This time is also allowing me to explore avenues I chose not to venture down in the past and I’m glad to have the opportunity to revisit them.  Meeting new people, being out in the world brings me joy.  New music will come, time to reflect will come as well.  And I will be all the stronger for it.

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Photos from the bright side

April 8th, 2013 5 Comments

Mary Rambin text

First I want to say thank you for your sweet comments and letters of support for my broken heart. And while it’s still aching, I just want you to know I’m on the mend and living on the bright side of my new solo life.  If you follow me on twitter, facebook, and instagram, you actually know that by now :)

A lot of you said in your comments you really appreciated me sharing more of myself in that post.  Even on my side, it felt good sharing my emotions with you again.  If I’m more exposed, our interaction is so much more real, for both of us.  So, I’m going to do more of that…..and pray I don’t get torn to shreds.  I’m not sure I can survive another Gawker or GOMI era.  My thick skin has worn down, and I have no desire to build it up again.

At this point, I’ve been working hard on my own accord for the goals I set out on my vision board.  Job opportunities have been rolling in left and right.  It’s amazing what location will do for your business.  Funny how that slipped my mind while I was tucked away in the south for so long.  I also think putting my ambition out there for myself instead of my man really makes a difference.  So many things I have put on my vision board are becoming realities.

Coupled with work, I don’t think, I should say I KNOW, I’d have such a good attitude if it weren’t for my friends.  In my life I am so fortunate to have great friends.  Not just acquaintances, but people I trust and love unconditionally and get that in return from them.

LA overall was such a positive healing experience for me.  I hope I can say the same about NYC.

Mary Rambin leather jacket

Actually getting dressed in something other than spandex.

Mary Rambin and Andy Nemeth

Poppin’ caff with Andy

Mary Rambin and Ali Gordon

BFF day with Kitty

Mary Rambin bikiniRyan posing as statue

Pool day with Ryan

Mary Rambin and Amber

New wing-woman Amber

Mary Rambin and Otto Cedeno 2013

Trouble with Otto the birthday boy

Mary Rambin and Renee Herlocker

Sweaty social sister Renee Herlocker

Mary Rambin and Adam Senn

Lunch with model-slash-entreprenuer Adam

Mary Rambin and Mike Berman

Making things happen with @webjoe and Friday5 founder Mike Berman

Mary Rambin, Andy Nemeth, Ryan Farber

Getting to live with the two most positive people on the planet Andy and Ryan.

I woke up to their infectious smiles everyday and it made all the difference! I can’t thank you two enough.

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in which i let it slip away….

February 20th, 2013 No Comments

 

I saw this “Picture and a Poem” in T magazine on Sunday.  It snuck up on me in the midst of the editorial spread and Fashion Week review.  I read it…and then sat there for a moment, in shock or should I say in awe, as if I had eaten the sweetest piece of candy I’d never tasted before.  But, how can that be?  I used to read poetry all the time.  I loved discecting it in school for the world of meaning that existed between the lines.

This poem lays it all out there, so it seems the verses exposed a sensitive spot in my world: a tender part of me I haven’t accessed in too long, a mirror I have been turning on myself since my birthday and unable to articulate what I saw there, and finally a sense that my daily life has lost its luster.

I suppose somewhere along the way I substituted music for poetry; it’s easier to consume day to day.  Songs are poetic, even the cheesy pop melodies, but there is something about slowing it down, reading the lines with your own voice, your own tone, your own attitude, that changes the game.  Or, that’s the way I feel.  I used to write down songs so I could cherish the words and how they resonated in my heart.

With life pulling me in different directions, trying me at every turn these days, I find I have let the poetry slip away.  I don’t have much more to say on that, or a sentiment for you to take away, just my thoughts on this one.

I am going to rediscover the verse that lays asleep beneath me.  I know it’s there…cuddled up with my smile.

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InstaChristmasGift

December 5th, 2012 No Comments

This is probably the most inventive, fun, and EASY gift idea I’ve come across in a long time!

StickyGram, a UK based company, is a service that allows you to create a sheet of nine square magnets using any of the photos you have taken on Instagram.  It takes about 4 minutes to make and costs $15 a sheet.  BRILLIANT.  And so much fun to make.

The only one little complaint I have is that you can’t use your friends’ photos to make them personalized sheets.  You can only use your own photos.

Use my code FRIENDFMRP and get $2 off your first order.

YOU MUST ORDER BY DECEMBER 9 TO GET YOUR STICKYGRAMS IN TIME FOR CHIRSTMAS.

I came across this idea on Pinterest, pinned it on my Holiday Gift Guide board and it was an instant favorite.  You can also find it on my MTM gift guide and GIVEAWAY for 2012.

 

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Problems of today

November 14th, 2012 2 Comments

Have you ever slowed down to notice the problems, issues, and dilemas you face right now are drastically different from those you had 5 years ago.  In my case, that would be last year.

As I get older I become much more aware of the details of my life, why things happen, how I can conciously alter my behavior/schedule/habits to make life easier on myself and those around me.  That all sounds glorious, but we know it’s not that easy.  The awareness and desire to change is one thing; actually implementing the conceived solutions is a whole other issue!

In the past, say for example when I was living in NYC 5 years ago, I believed I had the same awareness, but I now realize I didn’t. My youth allowed me to ride the highs and survive the lows of my rollercoaster (aka glamourous gypsy) lifestyle.

Now here I sit in Atlanta, a place I never dreamed I would live, with a whole set of issues I never believed I would have.  Does that make me unhappy?  Absolutely not.  Quite the contrary actually.  But what I will say is that finding my identity within this space is proving to be a challenge.  I don’t have my friends and family that I do in Houston , my BFFs in LA, my NYC network or venues, or the luxury of my more exotic temporary homes.  That last one is obviously a stretch, but it’s all very true.

Let’s take my blog as an example.  The content has to evolve with me or else it would be just like many others out there: suppositions and babble. Who wants to waste their time on that.  Not me and I’m sure not you.  I should say, that’s not why I started MTM and that will never be how I maintain it.  For me, the joy of blogging comes in sharing the new things I discover because I believe they will be beneficial in your life.  In living a more domesticated and private life, I no longer experience (which is different than just reading about) new things as often as I used to.  My style is casual; my workouts are consistent; my travel is occasional; my friends are mommies; my boyfriend is private; my life is pretty straight ahead.  I’m MORE than ok with that, I’m actually very happy with my life.  It just makes content harder to come by.  And, I’ve realized I’m no longer relevant to the 18-24 year olds as I used to be.  Something else that is absolutely fine by me….Now I’m rambling.

So that’s the problem of today that pertains to you.  There are plenty more, but I’ll keep them to myself per usual.

What I can say is that self-awareness is a blessing and a curse.  I can say for certain it doesn’t come with age, but moreso the ability to just slow down and think.  That’s obviously not front page news.  Sometimes it’s just nice to hear that clarity doesn’t have to be a journey as much as it just needs to be a little time to yourself.

What will become of my clarity is yet to be seen.  I’m doing the work to implement it and trying to stay calm all at the same time.  How all of that comes to fruition on this blog??  Now that should be interesting :)

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