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No Slowing Down in 2016

April 9th, 2016 No Comments

Mary Rambin 2016

 

Hello my loooongtime readers,

We’ve been here together on MTM for 7 years now.  Can you believe it?!

I’ve spent most of those years sharing my experiences on a regular basis, so I’m not surprised to get the “Where are you” emails.

This year has been consumed building on the momentum of 2015 in which I opened RYDE4, my cycling studio on the Third Street Promenade in Santa Monica,

Mary Rambin RYDE4 2015

and acquired some notable clients that increased my reach as a branding and marketing consultant.

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I’m happy and proud to say I’m working my little butt off over here!

Time I’m not working…

Mary Rambin Back Muscles 2015

I workout with my trainer

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Dine with friends who know me too well

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Throw my own dinner parties

Mary Rambin Napa 2016

Get out of town

Mary Rambin Golfing 2016

Play and watch golf as much as I can

Mary Rambin and Leven Rambin 2015

Travel home to be with family

Mary Rambin Birthday 2016

Get my groove on

Mary Rambin Legs 2016

And even get some rest!

Mary Rambin Cabo 2015

Life is full and I love every minute of it!

Hopefully, you’ll continue to keep up with me on Instagram and Twitter so when I come back to the blog, we’ll all be in the loop and happy to get MTM rolling again.

In the meantime, you know my years of archives are well-organized in the navigation above and to the left.

Should you have any questions, most of which usually pertain to cosmetics or travel, you can always email me:

Mary@MoreThanMary.com

Many thanks for your patience and big hugs to you all.

M

 

 

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Set the table for a special experience, not just a meal this holiday.

November 11th, 2015 No Comments

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Whether or not I’m hosting a party at a house, venue, or a restaurant, I always set the table with my decor and fresh flowers.  It’s one of my creative outlets and a way to show my guests I’m honored they’re spending their time with me.

The biggest reward is not the formality, but the way people light up as they approach the table to see you have gone all out on their behalf.  The table, like the meal, is an experience that is notable, respectable, and memorable.

The key elements to setting a beautiful table:

If you can get those three things, you’ve gone above. To go beyond include what I call accessories: candles, place cards, snacks, distinctive glasses and/or stemware, chargers, gifts, etc.

Here I have examples of my last two events: Leven’s bridal shower brunch at 41 Ocean Club in Santa Monica and a corporate breakfast at The Cavalier in San Francisco.  For both I used the restaurant’s plates, napkins, and silverware; everything else I brought in.

BRIDAL BRUNCH

Leven’s theme was young, bohemian bride.  As her big day was approaching, she was growing more feminine in her style so I used pink, pastels, and baby’s breath to create a soft and “precious” table.  The center was kept clear so they could place down food for family style service.

As for the boho flair, I went with deconstructed flower arrangements and mismatched place settings.  All of the girls brought recipes for Leven to make a healthy cookbook, so I used a colorful dishtowels to add depth to the table.  These were also her party favors for the girls to take home.

  

 

CORPORATE BREAKFAST

In San Francisco, we took over the private dining space at The Cavalier to host a breakfast for 30.  The theme of the restaurant was 1800’s English Equestrian and the company’s colors are black and red so I tied the two together in the setting.

Because the hosts were men and the food was served family style, I kept the flowers sparse and simple.


 One last note about the flowers.  To make a lot of arrangements on a budget, find a mart that sells them at a discount.  If you’re shopping at the grocery store you’re going to end up spending a fortune!  If you’re not one to put together an arrangement on your own, either stick to something simple and modern (a couple lilies or roses cut short in a small vase) or hire someone off of craigslist to help you.

For more posts and photos of my tables, click here.  This our family  Thanksgiving last year!

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Thank God for closure.

August 5th, 2015 No Comments

If you’ve been with me for a while, you know a few years ago (two and a half to be exact), my heart was shattered by the man I called the love of my life.

I’m not going to dive back into the details because moving forward is about looking ahead not looking back.

What I’m realizing now is that we can have TRUE CLOSURE in life.  So many times I have heard myself say, “I’m over it,” whatever it might be, but in my heart I know that’s not the truth.  Last week, I finally experienced real closure on my past love and woke up liberated, like the weight of the world had been lifted off my shoulders.

Closure came after going out with him twice over the past two months.  The first time I was scared to death, but armed with a well-rounded life and a killer blowout, I made it through dinner feeling confident.  So to my surprise, when I got home, I broke down into tears on the couch.  My outburst wasn’t due to uncontrolable love for him though…it was my first sense of release!

But, I didn’t know why or how or what was better now….It took date #2 to get that straight.

This time I think he planned so I would be wearing a bikini, he always loved me in a bathing suit…thankfully that doesn’t bother me in the least.  We spent the day in Laguna laying out by the pool, reminiscing about our past life together, eating at the bar like we used to, and snuggling under the stars at an outdoor concert.  It was sweet and comfortable, but not emotional. THANK GOD.

After these two dates, I have come to find out our extraordinary love is history.  Those memories only survive in stories, really wonderful stories.  Our friendship will never die, our chemistry will always be charged, but the desire to be with each other is finally gone.

Ahhhhhhhhhhhh.

Everything seems to be so much easier now.  I feel more rested; the tension in my neck has subsided; daily activities are effortless.  I never realized before how heavy his emotional baggage was for me.

After a few days of thinking around this concept of “closure” I’ve come to realize a few important things I can apply to other conflicts in my life in an attempt to find a resolution and a feeling of satisfaction.

1.  Give it time.

I’m one of those people who likes to confront conflict head on and get it over with.  Carrying a pit in my stomach is one of the worst feelings, in my opinion.  “Why not just talk about it now and move on?” is my thought.  Because time allows emotions to settle and the real issue to reveal itself.

If I had seen my ex last year and gone out on these two dates, I’m not sure I would have come out of with closure.

2.  Let go of control.

It’s very rare that people do what we want them to do. All we can do is make the best decisions for ourselves.

As hard as it was, I moved on and built a life that makes me very happy.  If I had seen him in a state of misery or even transition, I wouldn’t have been strong enough to meet him again with confidence.

3.  There is no need to blame.

In my relationships, I never assign blame. How can we confine a relationship, something so volatile, to one instance?  A big part of my ability to find closure was that I didn’t have to forgive him.  I never had any resentment towards him.  When we split, I fully understood his reasons and I accepted them as his reality.  I hated the circumstances, but I accepted them. With that perspective, I realized I had no control of him and had to move on.

4.  Learn from your loss.

When you come out the other side feeling like you’ve gained something, it’s easier to move forward.

When I felt nostalgic, I let my mind stumble down a road of memories which inevitably led to a waterfall of tears.  Those moments allowed me to know how meaningful our relationship was.  This wasn’t loneliness I was experiencing, it was loss. And when I knew I didn’t want to lose again, to feel like this again, I realized all of the things I had done to contribute to our demise.  So many trips to that past have changed me to be a better person.

4.  If you’re scared, it’s important enough to do it.

Going out with my ex for the first time I was tingling with fear and excitement.  That’s how I knew that no matter what happened, I had made the right decision to see him again.  Those kinds of strong emotions, the ones that overwhelm you, shouldn’t be contained forever.

5.  Know exactly what you want the outcome to be.

When you go into any meeting, you have a goal: win their favor, make the sale, get the contract signed, whatever it is. The same holds true here.

When I told people I was going out with my ex, they all said, “Don’t have sex with him, you’re not going to have sex with him, right?”  Right.  If sex was what I wanted all along, I knew he would be a phone call away.  Closure, which is what I was after, is much harder to get and exponentially more satisfying. (I’ll look back at that and probably disagree later;))

 

By no means am I suggesting this a formula, just hindsight presenting some signs to point me in the right direction.

 

The only issue I’m left with now is a very high bar for the true love of my life.

Or possibly he was the one and we missed our chance? If that’s the case, I feel blessed to have experienced that degree of love.

At 33, I’m optimistic.  Life is more fun that way.  At the very least, I look forward to sharing my life with some extraordinary people.

 

 

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A summer shopping list for the boys + discount code

June 16th, 2015 No Comments

For some reason, men have trouble dressing for casual activities.  They take “casual” to mean “anything goes.”  Sigh. Beach days, in particular, came to mind today.  If men only knew how sexy a simple t paired with a nice pair of swim trunks looked, I don’t think they’d mind wearing the outfit for a few hours before we rip it off later.

The issue I think lies in that when men think “outfit” they think “uncomfortable”  and “expensive.” IF THEY ONLY KNEW how tight our skinny jeans really are!!!

Below are 4 brands you can shop that your man will love and look amazing wearing this summer.  And , they won’t cost either of you a fortune.

The Basic T

Alternative Apparel $46

Wear Anywear Board Shorts

SaturdaysNYC – Shop the collection $75-$85

  

 

Katin $81 – found on StagProvisions with tons of great brands

The Flip Flop

 

Hari Mari Flip Flops

Hari Mari from $60 (all rubber) to leather and canvas $65 (first pair)

$80 (here in leather)

The Bag

Rare Form Tote

 

Rare Form – backpacks, totes (mine above!), and surf bags made from recycled billboards, each one is unique. Prices $45-80

USE DISCOUNT CODE Mary at checkout for 25% off!

The Bracelet

Miansai bracelet

 

Miansai – starting at $65

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My granola recipe

June 11th, 2015 No Comments

My granola company never took off, but I’m still cranking out batches of this stuff and people are always wanting the recipe.

It’s a great summer snack to have in the glovebox instead of bars.  With the nuts and oats, after a handful you’re satisfied until you can get some real food in you.

My recommendation is NOT to mix this with yogurt or milk.  In comparison to other granolas, this blend doesn’t have a lot of sugar, so any addition dilutes the barley-there sweetness.

My Famous Granola

Yields about 9 cups or 3 mason jars.

Preheat oven to 325.

  • 6 cups rolled oats
  • 1 cup shredded unsweetened coconut
  • 1 cup chopped almonds seeds
  • 1 cup sunflower seeds
  • 2/3 cup coconut oil
  • 2/3 cup maple syrup
  • 2 T cinnamon
  • 1 t vanilla
  • Parchment Paper
  • Big baking pans with sides (Glass is best, but metal will do)

Additions

Don’t add them altogether, use each bullet as one blend.

  • Dried plums chopped
  • Currants (instead of raisins)
  • Dried Apricot + Hazelnuts
  • Dried and flatted bananas – sliced
  • Pistachios (just the meat)
  • Raw cashews
I didn’t measure any additions.  You just have to make sure not to put in too much.

Cooking

Line the pans with parchment paper and make sure you have two sides long enough to grab.

Total cooking time varies on what kind of pan you use (metal or glass), what size each pan is, and how they’re placed in the oven.  In other words, you just have to watch it for about 45 minutes.
Sit by the oven and stir it about every 10 minutes to avoid the bottom burning.
When it turns golden brown, pull out a spoonful, let it cool, and try it.  If it’s still chewy, put it back in the oven.
You’ll know when it’s done.
Take the parchment paper out of the pans and let the granola cool flat on the table.

Gift It

Pack it up in mason jars or cute bags and gift it to friends, co-workers, teachers.  Use it for party favors. People love it!

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The rules of cut off shorts

June 2nd, 2015 No Comments

At the ripe old age of 33, I feel like I’m too old and have become too conservative to wear cut off jean shorts of the super-short, ripped-to-shreds, pocket-hanging-out variety. Totally ridiculous, especially since I live in a beach town and I’m a stone’s throw away from West Hollywood where anything goes.

I think it’s time I lighten up!

@PeaceLoveShea (“a global talent and fashion influencer” per her website) has become one of my favorite fashionistas to follow on instagram,  I don’t really care what she does for a living, but I love living and dressing vicariously through her.

She exemplifies how this trend should be worn.

 

 

RULES TO ROCK THIS TREND

  1. Loose-fitting top

  2. Flat shoes

A few other examples from IG.

    

 

One thing you need to watch out for are the high-waisted shorts.  They look good from the front, just don’t take the tags off until you make sure they look good from the back.  I have a severe case of pancake butt in anything high waisted.  These two below pull it off beautifully.

 

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Pre-order your holiday party show-stopper now!

September 30th, 2014 2 Comments

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I’m not one to fawn over accessories, especially ones with your name emblazoned across the front, but when Kristen walked into the house with this clutch, it opened a floodgate of compliments.

After I stopped gushing, Kristen filled me in on the details. The custom-made acrylic clutch is from Edie Parker, a line started by Brett Heyman.  Before starting  EP, Brett did PR for Gucci and worked at Elle.  The inspiration for the “wearable sculptures” comes from the showgirls and socialites of the 50’s and 60’s.  Due to the fact that they’re all hand-made, prices start at $895.

Considering I’m the girl who started a line of handbags based on functionality, I am as surprised as you are to hear myself say:

“Let’s forget the fact it’s totally impractical and cumbersome,

it’s a show-stopper and that’s all that matters.”

With all of the parties you’ll be going to over the holidays, an EP clutch will not only make you stand out, but also be a great conversation piece.  

Coupled with its unique nature, the versatility makes the price point more justifiable.  Kristen paired it with jeans, a white t, and Chloe wedges for a casual evening out.

If you’re going to spend the money, I say go Bespoke like Kristen and create your own clutch ($1595 or $1795).  Delivery takes 8-10 weeks so that’s why you need to order it now!

Edie Parker Bespoke Clutch

or shop the collection (starting at $895).

Edie Parket Clutches

 

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Sun’s out guns out

August 27th, 2014 No Comments

Mary Rambin Summmer 2014

 

Literally.  Haha.

I took this picture on my vacation that JUST ended.  If you follow me on Instagram, you saw the pics from NYC and Montauk.  What a magical trip.

Usually, when you come home from vacation, you’re exhausted and discouraged to get back to the grind.  For me, thankfully, neither are true.  My body is totally refreshed, and I could not be more excited to work on my new venture!

So, in this case, I’m firing on all cylinders to get the plan done for the business and secure the funding.

I’ll be back on the blog after Labor Day.  As I always say when I leave, there is 6 years worth of fitness, fashion, recipes, travel guides, etc for you if you need some guidance.  And of course, you’re always welcome to send me questions directly at Mary@MoreThanMary.com.

Have a wonderful holiday!

 

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