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Four ways to say “thank you” and express your genuine gratitude

November 26th, 2013 No Comments

Mary Rambin and her mom

Around the holidays I feel especially blessed when I hear people complaining about spending time with their family.  At that point I say, “they’re your family, make the best of it,” or just keep my mouth shut.  I feel sorry for those who can’t find love and support in their family.   I treasure treasure every single person in my family.  The idea of family is so satisfying for me, I give the same badge of honor and unconditional love to longtime friends.

This year, I had two friends I considered family let me down BIG TIME.  Oh my goodness, they broke my heart.  But life goes on I suppose.

For that reason, I think it’s important that each person in my life who I consider family or friend hear not just “I love you” but more importantly “thank you” for being in my life. 

Now, since we say “thank you” all the time, the gesture has a tendency to go in one ear and out the other.

So here are four ways I say “thank you”

so my loved ones hear me clearly and feel my gratitude.

1.  BE SPECIFIC.

People don’t turn away when you’re giving them praise.  They pay closer attention.  So when I say thank you, I follow it with specific instances in which that person made me feel safe, supported, and special.

2.  HUG AND HOLD.

At the end of the dinner or party, when you pull someone in for a hug, hold them there and say your thanks.  There is so much strength and meaning in a great hug, they’ll know you really appreciate them.

3.  KISSEY PICTURE.

Now this is a signature Mary move.  I’ll take a normal posed picture and then insist on a “kissey picture” in which I kiss my friend (or above my mom) on the cheek.  Then I’ll email it with a specific note of thanks and love.  Sometimes I go a little farther to print it, frame it, and send it with a card that goes into how thankful I am to have them in my life.  The unusual picture is unforgettable and so is the sentiment.  My hope is that every time they see it, they will smile knowing they are adored.

4.  SPREAD THE WORD.

This goes back to being specific.  In this scenario, you tell a story about your loved one to a group at your feast.  Your big ending is hopefully a laugh from the group followed by an ode of gratitude.  When the group sees your loved one, they’ll share your story.  The recipient will feel satisfied that he/she has affected your life in such a positive way.

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An On-Going Gift Guide

November 27th, 2010 No Comments

This is going to be an ongoing list so by the time Christmas rolls around, we’re prepared for any given occasion. Email me anything you run across so I can add it on!

SAKE IT TO THEM

Clever design by Alex Purcell who used one of the most decadent Japanese dishes – the blowfish – to inspire a very fun and functional sake pitcher.  Obviously this is a great conversation starter for dinner parties. ($98 for the set at sakebombstore.com)

 

CUT OUT WHAT THEY LOVE

Custom cutouts you can frame and fit into any home decor. Check out the etsy page: papercutsbyjoe (found on bookspaperscissors)

 

Show her you appreciate her couture, even though you can’t afford it.  ThisHermes coloring book ($130) is a bit steep, but she’ll get more use out of this fun activity on the flight to London than her new Givenchy boots will see in one winter. (found on the blog penned by the best and most beautiful woman in branding I know)

More to come!

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Making new friends

September 24th, 2010 No Comments

When I travel I love to meet new people.  I feel like hearing other people’s stories allows me to see the world in a new way through their eyes and take a bite of another culture.

I know it’s uncomfortable to go up to people and introduce yourself or strike up a conversation at a bar, especially if you’re not traveling. But I dare you to try it.  Venture out on your own and see who you meet.  You might hear a good story, adopt a new idea, learn something about yourself, or even make a friend.

Bob and I met at a small bar in New Canaan and in a couple years he has quickly become one of my favorite people in the world. I wouldn’t want to live life without my friend Bob.

So instead of being intimidated by the awkwardness, shove it aside, smile, and introduce yourself with confidence.  You have so much to offer that person too!

(via somethingchanged via madeleinepascal, via scouting ny)

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Postcards From Playa Del Carmen

August 13th, 2010 No Comments

Last day working from my beachfront desk :(

 

I spy with my little eye…

 

Meet my friend Juan (you might remember him as the hottie from my first trip to Playa) and his business partner Alex. They’ve just opened Playa’s hottest restaurant Sea Sun Bistro on 8th Street. Tonight they’re hosting a private event so this place is about to be packed!!

 

My toes are out of the water

Ass out of the sand

What the hell am I thinking

I’m leavin’ again.

Life is…..sad today!

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August 4th, 2010 No Comments

“Sometimes I like to learn from the mistakes I advise other people to make.”

— My friend Matt, NYC promoter and one of the sweetest men alive (another rare breed!)

You should really follow him on twitter and/or tumblr. He doesn’t tweet much, but when he does, it makes me smile because I always agree with his random comments.

The links: tumblr —> mattoliver and twitter —>  @virtualoliver

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August 4th, 2010 No Comments

little letters from kaitlin

dear football season, i am SO ready for you.

dear california, 4days4days4days!

dear spin instructor, you really effin’ suck (in a good way).

dear nose, sorry i neglected the sunscreen this weekend.

dear coffee, je t’aime.

dear ali, you better pick chris.

dear friends, you’re awesome.

(via missjacobi)

Good morning Kaitlin,

I think you and I would get along nicely.

Love,

Mary

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I love my Kitty!

July 15th, 2010 No Comments

While her husband was away, the girls….watched movies. I know we’re boring. A child’s birthday and a movie, whoopie. But we loved it.

Apparently Ali draws the line at “sleepy” pics, but I wasn’t letting her off that easy.

Love you Kitty. Thank you for just being you, I love that crazy cat inside of you. X

 

Ok, she’s being silly, but that’s part of our nature. And we could care less who’s around and judging us for having harmless fun.

 

No we didn’t crash a 1 year old’s party, we were invited, we promise. See, I still enjoy the swing. Yeah huh I do.

 

A Simmzy’s sandwich is always part of one of our girls’ night out. I mean, what man is going to watch two chicks devour one of these bad boys. I can barely take a bite without getting caramelized onion all over myself.

 

Cheers to my Kitty for a fabulous weekend.

This is THE girl who truly completes me. Life without her really isn’t fun. But if we saw each other on a regular basis, civilization as we know it would be in serious trouble.

For those of you who don’t recognize Ali (aka Kitty), she is my best girlfriend from college whose wedding I cried through every minute of. I blogged the whole thing…pretty white dress…gorgeous Cali setting….ring a bell?

Anyway, we had a blast this weekend and I treasure every moment I get to spend with her.

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July 13th, 2010 No Comments

No way I’m making it to Manhattan Beach in 25 minutes in rush hour traffic on a Friday. After a long day and a couple of meetings, my patience is being put to the test in 90 degree heat. But there’s a cold beer waiting for me upon arrival!

 

I made it to Manhattan, beach that is (thankfully)! The drive only took an hour from Beverly Hills if you can believe it.

 

Lilly, Ali’s lab, insisted we go for a quick run before my 5 pm meeting. Obviously I couldn’t say no ;)

 

Take me with you. I want a coffee too. You can’t say no to this cute face.

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